| Marisa and Mario, you are in my prayers. I am so sorry she is gone. Rest knowing that you will see her again and she will give you a grand tour of heaven. Bless you both. I am so sorry for what you have had to go through.
You had an incredible mother and best friend. Few are so lucky. |
| Submitted by Su-Anna |
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| Dear Mario and Marisa,
2 years ago today heaven opened up and welcomed an Angel. May you spend today surrounded by the love and support of your family and friends. You are both thought of so very much. My heart is with you guys more than you know. In loving memory of the time you shared with your beautiful Mother. She will live in your hearts forever. Megan & The Coduto Family |
| Submitted by Megan Coduto and The Coduto Family |
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| Your birthday just passed and it's still hard to digest that you're gone. I think of you every day and the depth of pain I feel is because of the depth of love I have for you. I'm still learning from and inspired by you everyday, for that I can be eternally grateful. Miss you soooo much!! |
| Submitted by Marisa Vitale |
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| Merry Christmas, Mom. I miss you. |
| Submitted by Mario Vitale |
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| Two thoughts of you come to mind when I think of you Pam - - -class and caring. Class in that you handled the demands of being a single Mother while successfully fighting the corporate glass ceiling while you carried yourself with such dignity and poise. And you were not to be denied! Caring in so many ways, some of which I was the beneficiary as well as your many friends. To your children, to which your caring and love knew no boundaries. I was priveleged and blessed to witness that caring for several years that I cherish to this day. You are deeply missed, but we are all a little better people, because you shared you with us. |
| Submitted by Mike Gilligan |
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| Pamela, it has been a year since your family saw your beautiful smile and heard your voice. The memories of the last day you spent with Dan is something he will treasure in his heart forever. While we down here on earth are still mourning your untimely departure, we know in our hearts that you have had the most awesome year in Heaven with God and amongst the angels. Continue to watch down on those who love you sweet Pamela...your presence is definitely felt by those who you meant so much to. |
| Submitted by Jacques & Tera |
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| I send my deepest sympathy to the family of Pamela Vitale. It was about a year ago when I heard the tragic news. I just thought, Who could just come into your home and take you away from your loved ones for their own selfish, evil reasons? I am glad that animal will never see the outside of a prison.
I worry about what would happen to my kid if someone should be so hateful. It's horrible.
I wish your family peace and understanding. May the fond memories and beautiful photos that you have provide comfort for you. |
| Submitted by Drew's mom |
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| The photos of your loved one are very touching and her kindness glows so much from the photos. |
| Submitted by Anonymous |
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| Dear Mario and Marisa,
Everything you have said about your mother reminds me so much of my own mom, who I am blessed to still have in my life today for which I am so thankful. Mrs. Vitale seemed like a sweet and perfect mother to both of you. I never met her or knew her but just going through this website has brought tears to my eyes as I think of how you must feel about losing her in this manner. It's not fair and I am so sorry. But I pray that she is in a better place now, and able to look down on her beautiful daughter and son and everyone else she loved while on this earth, and quietly bless you from above.
Neil |
| Submitted by Neil |
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| She is looking down on you Marisa and Mario and she is so very proud of what you are, what you have accomplished and what you will be. She sees everything. She knows how hard you've fought to see justice and how hard you've cried because you miss her voice, her face, her smile and her hugs. She is looking down from heaven watching over both of you and knowing one day you will meet again and their will be nothing but bliss. |
| Submitted by Megan K. Coduto |
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| I met Pamela in Europe and in the U.S. at exhibitions (IBC and NAB) while she was at Informix. She was always special, had time for everyone and had that real 'magic' about her. The World will be a sadder place without her. |
| Submitted by Stephen Mayes |
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| Oh Pam, I just felt that I had to talk to you as we always did after something major happened. Justice was served and that evil person will not be able to harm anyone else. Though he was convicted it feels as if there should be something more. You should be walking into the room saying, "I'm glad that's over with." You would be telling me, "OK if you can't get over it, you are going to have to go into therapy." And then you would say something that would make us all laugh. But that isn't going to happen and I can't stop the tears for you, your family and for myself. However, you would tell me (as you did after my son died), "Think of the good times and smile everytime you think of me. Before you know it, there will be more smiles than pain." |
| Submitted by Jan Lawrence |
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| Whoops, I meant to write the word "peace", and may "peace" find you soon. Wow, after looking at the pictures of your mother and both of you throughout your life, I can see in her face the incredible love and pride she had for you, the rest of her family, and her friends. Her smile and love for life is infectious; and may that forever influence the rest of the world to aspire to positively affect the world as she did. While reading all the posts here, I can see the difference she has made in her life, and the effects she had on those around her. Although I never had the honor of meeting her, it is undeniable that you are truly lucky to have been blessed to have her as your mother. May her love live on in you forever, and know that people are thinking of your family often. |
| Submitted by Heather |
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| Hi Marisa and Mario. I also grew up in MB and went to school with you at MBI and Mira Costa. I wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. I heard the verdict yesterday and hope that it gives you some piece in a time of sorrow. Your mother seems like she was an unbelieveble and strong woman; and your whole family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and God Bless! |
| Submitted by Heather |
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| We are writing this while listening to all of you ~ Mario, Marisa, Tamera, Carol and Vern speak after the jury verdict today. May God bless all of you and keep you in His care. Justice has been served for Pamela today. She will now rest in peace, in God's loving arms. |
| Submitted by Jacques & Tera |
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| Mario & Marisa,
We want you to know you are in our thoughts in prayers everyday. Especially during this time that is taking much strength. I hope you will continue to look to eachother for the support you need when you feel weak. I hope you both will read the submission entitled "Pamela's Inspiration for Marisa and Mario,"When I'm Gone". That is the truth and I hope when faith is scarce you will think of these words. You are thought of often and prayed for daily. Much Love. ((M)) |
| Submitted by Megan K. Coduto and The Coduto Family |
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| I did not have the pleasure of knowing Pamela Vitale but wanted to say that this is a beautiful tribute to your mother and friend. She was obviously a very generous, special and loving person. Last year was a tragic year for my family as well; my thoughts and prayers are with you. May you find peace. |
| Submitted by Angelina Colombo |
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| Thank you for sharing this website. It is beautiful and it makes me feel as though I have met Pam even though I haven't. Stay strong knowing that she walks beside you daily. |
| Submitted by Sinead |
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| "In a beautiful blue lagoon on a clear day, a fine sailing ship spreads its brilliant white canvas in a fresh morning breeze sails out to the open sea.
We watch her glide away magnificently through the deep blue and gradually see her grow smaller and smaller as she nears the horizon.
Finally, where the sea and sky meet, she slips silently from sight; and someone near me says, 'There, she is gone!'
Gone where? Gone from sight, that is all.
She is still as large in mast and hull and sail, still just as able to bear her load. And we can be sure that, just as we say, 'There, she is gone!' another says, 'There, she comes!!!' "
--- Unknown |
| Submitted by Heather Langhoff |
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| July 26, 2006: Tomorrow begins the process of justice for Pamela and her family. May God be with the People seeking that justice and the twelve men and women who must reach a verdict. Be strong, Mario and Marisa, and remember your mother is always with you, watching over you from above. |
| Submitted by Jacques & Tera |
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| I am so glad you were blessed with a such a mother. I am sorry for your loss and touched by this site in her memory. |
| Submitted by Carrie |
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| The following is Pamela's eulogy for my son, Michael. She spoke these words at his funeral on June 7, 2002. Pamela and Michael were close and they wrote to each other often. She was an "aunt/big sister" to him.
I met Michael when he was a 10-year-old boy. Even then, he was wise beyond his years. Throughout his childhood and into teenage years, Michael had a maturity about him that was special. He used to hang out at my apartment and visit. He would baby-sit my children, Mario and Marisa… and I always felt they were safe in his care. Later, to earn extra money, he would sometimes clean my house. Here is classic Michael… I remember him explaining to me the “art” of making a sink look sparkling clean and inviting…and how if one’s sink looked great, it fooled people into thinking the whole house was sparkling clean. I was impressed…and I have to tell you that to this day, I use the “sink trick” that Michael taught me.
After he had been diagnosed with leukemia, he rose above it. He handled it with such grace. If anything, Michael’s spirit grew even more loving and giving. He always had a wonderful, warm hug and ready smile when we would meet. More recently, Michael shared in my wedding day in San Francisco. This was the last time I saw Michael. I am so happy he is forever a part of that day in my heart. He had on his special hat…and was his usual, streaming-positive-energy self. I truly believe Michael became as an angel on earth. He had a peace and a calm about him that could be almost ethereal. He had a precious spirit and I am grateful to have known him in my life. I will miss him.
I’d like to read briefly from “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran on Death.
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| Submitted by Jan Lawrence |
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| The warmth radiating from Pamela's smile is so genuine. To be in her presence surely had to make all feel so special. The very thought that we come here to leave our thoughts and prayers is so heartbreaking. We wish we had known of Pamela in a much happier way but life has no certainties and losses leave us all struggling with why bad things happen to good people. But Pamela's spirit flies higher than the eagles dare to fly and she is free to soar among the heavens.
She has not left you Mario and Marisa. She is there in the wind that blows against your face. Or a soft touch you feel on your shoulder and always in your heart. She is there and she is smiling that warm smile filled with love for the both of you and all she loved dearly.
God Bless You.
Randal and Sandi
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| Submitted by Sandi and Randal |
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I HOPE YOU DANCE
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger.
May you never take one single breath for granted.
God forbid Love ever leave you empty handed.
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean.
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens.
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance.
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.
I hope you dance....I hope you dance.
I hope you never fear the mountains in the distance.
Never settle for the path of least resistance.
Livin' might mean takin' chances but they're worth takin'.
Lovin' might be a mistake but it's worth makin'.
Don't let some hell-bent heart leave you bitter.
When you come close to sellin' out reconsider.
And when you get the chance to sit it out or dance.
I hope you dance....I hope you dance
-Mark Sanders and Tia Sillers |
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| What a beautiful message your mother had for both of you. It doesn't bring much comfort to know she is with God, when you want her with you, but take comfort in her spirit, and he love for you. Also take comfort in knowing that your friends are here, when you call.
Much love to both of you and to your family. |
| Submitted by Shalane and Josh |
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| Marisa,
I never had the chance to meet your mother, but after seeing this and hearing stories over the past year I wish I had. I think this is a beautiful tribute and I have enjoyed reading stories about her. I have never told you how sorry I am for your loss, but I think of you often. Your mom raised a wonderful girl and when people meet you they will know her time on earth was well spent and worth every single second. Please take good care of yourself for her and us. Love, Monica |
| Submitted by MonicaEthridge |
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| Pamela - your life here on earth was too short, but through all you did you will never be forgotten. We know you are watching over those you loved each and every day. Thank you for being the beautiful person you were while you were with us...
To Pamela's family - Thank you for the beautiful, inspiring website. May you feel Pamela's presence in your lives every day...for she is still with you...look to the sky and you will see her with the angels above. God Bless You. |
| Submitted by Jacques & Tera |
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| I hear Pam's voice and see her broad beautiful smile just by thinking of her and all the memories over several decades. She was the most dilligent and loving mother any woman could be. Her children were her everything. I want them (and all who loved her) to feel themselves in her gorgeous smile. Taking a mindful moment to feel that makes her life always remembered. |
| Submitted by Valerie Maxwell |
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| M Cat,
This website is incredible. What a nice job you've done. The pictures of your mom are my favorite. She has a wonderful smile like you do. I dig those glasses she sported in the old school days too!
Your mothers spirit is alive and all around as long as you and your brother have her in your hearts which I know you do. She will live through you, she will comfort you and she will always be with you. The pain of your loss is shared with those that love you and Kelly and I are two of those people. We love you Marissa. Our prayers are with you, have been with you and will be with you in these coming months.
When we lost our girls, everyone emailed asking to let them know if there was anything they could do, but you were the only one to offer examples and get specific. That meant a lot... I think because it showed how much you weren't just offering up a courtesy comment.
To that end, please let me know if I can:
Check on your house, water your plants, change the oil in your car, go get your mail, mow your lawn (just kidding)... let me know. It will feel good to give a little service to you so you'd be doing me a favor by asking me to help you out.
Again, we love you.
Killer n Beans.
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| Submitted by Ryan and Kelly Gaya |
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